Morning outing with neighbours July 27, 2012Posted by sunflower71 in activities for children, Life with 3 princesses, Summer 2012.
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This morning my neighbour and I took five kids out to The President’s Kitchen Garden in Attard. It is one of the best places I know where one can entertain the kids for a couple of hours during our hot summers. Here they are trying to look good in the pictures
This place has also some excellent snacks. After chocolate muffins and ginger breadmen and juices for the kids, and coffees and freshly baked Belgian Chocolate croissants and coffee for the mummies we took this photo. I admit it was very very tough to get all 5 looking in one direction.
Finally all hot but happy we found our way back to the cars through San Anton Gardens. At the clock we stopped to watch the giant minute hand moving while counting it’s 60 seconds to the next one.
We’re still all of us alive…. January 20, 2012Posted by sunflower71 in Life with 3 princesses, Uncategorized.
Hello again from me here at life with 3 Princesses! We are still all of us alive, healthy and growing. I haven’t given this space the attention it deserves. After all, those elusive few minutes remained elusive. Today is no different.
As I write Francesca is next to me watching Baby TV. Catherine is on the other side attempting to read what I’m writing. Maria is in the next room busily dreaming. Right now my wish is that she sleeps through the night. It is the same wish I have every night. She is a very light sleeper and every night without fail she comes along to our room with a number of requests ranging from being cold, being hot, needing a drink, needing the bathroom, bad dreams, and her latest excuse, “I came to be daddy’s hot water bottle”!
As you can see from the little ticker tapes on the left of the screen, Francesca is now 3. In a few days she will start going to the big school as she likes to call the Kindergarten she will be attending every day. She is very looking forward to wearing her new uniform to be just like Maria! She craves to be older and be doing older things. Today the squabble with Maria was on who has most homework for the weekend! To me it sounded a bit too nerdish….but funny too! Oh, how I will enjoy reminding them about these little quarrels when they are older and probably, like all teenagers , reluctant to complete all the homework!
In the mean time Stephen and I seek to keep them healthy and happy. Here we are a couple of months ago at a friend….in a rare picture where all 3 Princesses not only looking at the camera but all of us are actually enjoying being photographed! Thanks Becky for this! It’s one our best photos all together.
Maria: creature of habits May 31, 2011Posted by sunflower71 in Life with 3 princesses.
Tags: films, The Cherub
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Our Maria is really and truly a princess who likes routine….
One fetish of hers is to watch movies over and over and over again. I know that most children her age are like that but I also think that she is a little bit more stuck to something once she likes it. She is just over 4 years old but she has already been through her Annie phase, The Sleeping Beauty phase, The Sound of Music phase and now we are currently in Seven Brides for Seven Brothers phase. Every free moment she has, she wants to watch the same movie. The running commentry she makes up while watching them is also unchanged. What is funnier though is her sisters’ s reaction to her suggestion to watch her current favourite….they are already resigned to her constancy, and they are just, simply, patient with their sister. The dynamics between the three girls is amazing. At their young age, it is impressive to see how they are coping with each other’s character traits. This is one of the moments that gives me most pleasure – seeing my princesses building bridges towards each other and learning how to live peacefully together.
is it time to let go of the nick names? May 31, 2011Posted by sunflower71 in Life with 3 princesses.
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Originally, when I started this blog, I was very reluctant to upload pictures of my children and even to call them by their name when I write about them. Now I don’t know if maybe I’m getting a false sense of security, but I somehow let go of this fear and eventually started up loading pictures of them. I feel that I’m now at another point in the security issue. I think it’s high time I got rid of the nick names and to make my life and my readers life easier, I am going to start calling them by their names….. So dear readers, may I introduce you to Catherine, my eldest, Maria my second daughter and Francesca the youngest princess.
What I’m thankful for May 26, 2011Posted by sunflower71 in about me, Life with 3 princesses, Uncategorized.
Tags: about me, feelings, motherhood, women's roles, working mum
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Busy mummies are not only that. Obviously. We are also women, wives, colleagues, sisters, daughters, friends, etc. And being human (I hate being apologetic here, but somehow when one becomes a mother, other roles tend to become secondary) we also get our full share of different emotions. Among which that pesky feeling of being ‘down’. Now when does a working mother of 3 little girls have time to feel down? But you know, sometimes it happens. The reasons could be various. For me usually it happens when I make comparisons. I know they are odious but I guess they are also part of human nature. This time the comparison was with my single younger colleagues. And I got a general feeling that I was born too early. I started missing the freedom to do as one pleases on the spur of the moment.
And then a friend notices my ‘face’ looks different and after a few days of seeing this ‘face’ asks me ”do you have something missing in your life? Why are you sad?”
The question shocked me. I wasn’t expecting it and anyway it took me some time to give myself an answer.
In reality what is missing in my life?
The things I listed are not worth mentioning here.
My friend then surprises further me by sending me this poem:
Die slowly by Pablo Neruda
He who becomes the slave of habit,
who follows the same routes every day,
who never change space,
who does not risk and change the color of his clothes,
who does not speak and does not experience,
He or she who shuns passion,
who prefers black on white,
dotting ones “i’s” rather than a of emotions,
the kind that make your eyes glimmer,
that turn a yawn into a smile,
that make the heart pound in the face of mistakes and feelings,
He or she who does not turn things topsy-turvy,
who is unhappy at work,
who does not risk certainty for uncertainty,
to thus follow a dream,
those who do not forego sound advice at least once in their lives,
He who does not travel,
who does not read,
who does not listen to music,
who does not find grace in himself,
she who does not find grace in herself,
He who slowly destroys his own self-esteem,
who does not allow himself to be helped,
who spends days on end complaining about his own bad luck,
about the rain that never stops,
He or she who abandon a project before starting it,
who fail to ask questions on subjects he doesn’t know,
he or she who don’t reply when they are asked something they do know,
Let’s try and avoid death in small doses,
reminding oneself that being alive requires an effort far greater than the simple fact of breathing.
Only a burning patience will lead to the attainment of a splendid happiness.
Then reality hits in and I realize I have nothing missing. Instead I have a lot to be very thankful for.
And this list is definately worth listing here. The order is not in order of importance. It would be too difficult to put an order….
I am healthy.
I have 3 beautiful, healthy girls.
I have a husband who loves me and is fully dedicated to our family.
We have two jobs, a house and food on the table.
It’s not a long list but it is a lot to be thankful for and enough to blow away any ‘down’ feelings.
Thank you for reading.
Parenting skills May 16, 2011Posted by sunflower71 in Life with 3 princesses, my opinions, The Star.
Tags: children, house chores, parenting, The Star
This is probably for many of us in this role one of the issues that troubles us most. Unlike other skills we might possess there is pretty little to show us if we are actually on the right track or not. I do not mean to say that the difference between parents is not sometimes too obvious for the wrong reasons but that there are no indicators that could in some way let us know that we are actually on the right path to helping out children become mature and responsible adults….that is, until they are older and have become adults. But then, by that time, it is obviously too late to do anything about it anyway.
Then today, while I’m taking down the clothes from the clothes’ horse The Star comes along to help out. She starts piling up the clothes according to who they belong to and then putting the pegs in their container. Later when this is done, she starts giving me the wet clothes to hang together with 2 pegs at a time! We work silently together until both tasks are complete. For the record, she is 2 years 4 months old.
Now, tell me, if this is not a sign that I’m doing something right with the girls, what is?
boys March 6, 2011Posted by sunflower71 in Life with 3 princesses, Uncategorized.
Tags: boys, The Cherub, The Princess, The Star
With three girls in the house, it goes without saying that their relationships with boys will feature in our conversations every now and then. I had imagined this would happen sooner or later but I hadn’t figured it would happen so soon.
We’ve had this conversation:
TC (4 years old): Today me and GL (her heart-throb for this last year!) spend all our time in the yard running after each other.
TP (5 years old): Mum but why don’t I have someone who loves me like she has? (in tears)
Me: well you have me and dad and TS and TC who love you very much
TP: but I want a boy like GL to love me.
Me: (Giving her a hug) You will one day my dear.
then a few days later….
TP: Ma I support Liverpool like N. (On this rock it’s very common for football lovers to support English, Italian teams)
Me: Really. That’s nice. Do you know what Liverpool is?
TP: (in an exasperated tone) It’s a football team. N plays with them.
Me: Ah. I think you mean he likes them.
TP: No he plays with them. His back pack is a Liverpool one too.
Me: But who is N?
TP: He is my friend. He tries to catch me in the yard but I run very very fast and he hardly every manages. He manages only when I let him!
Me: Then I think he likes the football team called Liverpool FC but plays football here in town. Liverpool is in the Uk. Your dad has been there.
TP: I’ll ask him tomorrow if it’s like you say or not.
Then one afternoon…
TS (aged 2): Today GL hit me. (I’m sure he didn’t as they are in different play groups in entirely different towns,)
Me: Who is GL?
TS: the boy of TC! He hit me very hard!
I’m sure there’s more to come…
a missing side February 21, 2011Posted by sunflower71 in Life with 3 princesses.
I often find myself missing a side, a hand, an arm…. Don’t know about you other moms of 3 or more children how to solve this problem? What do you do when all your 3 children want sit by your side, hold your hand, to be lifted? How do you solve our perennially present seating problem at a rectangular table that normally seats 6 but being 5, TP or TC complain there is no one at their side? I still need to have TS at specific angle from me. It seems the older two sense this and complain at each and every meal we have together. This sibling rivalry is constantly manifested and at times I have not patience for it and unless the fighting escalates, I let them sort differences out between them. But when the issue is to be lifted by my man…. do we have to actually count the minutes he has one of them in his arms so he give each of the other 2 the same amount? Should I spend exactly the same amount of time getting each one ready…. yes another issue is who gets changed on the nappy changer like TS does. When TP asks to be fed should I always give in? She is over 5 now and has been capable of feeding herself without (making a mess) for a number of years! But then, there are days when she throws a tantrum just so that I/we give in… Should I run to wipe their bottom every single time they ask just so that they have me with them alone for a few minutes when they are perfectly training in this specific routine?
Alternatively, I might try to look at things from my princesses’ perspective… it probably is not easy for children who have a strong character like my 3 all have to cohabit in a family where you are not the only princess.
Yet another point of view could be that of actually enjoying the noise and the fighting for attention now, before they start drifting away from me and my cuddles.
My project February 7, 2011Posted by sunflower71 in about me, Life with 3 princesses.
Tags: about me
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This blog chronicles what I’ve come to see as my life project. I feel my life has a direction, I know where I’m going, what my efforts are for. I also know who my ‘colleagues’ in the life project are. And I’m loving their company! I’m also thankful for all my life has become….I’m where I had always dreamt to be but for many years thought and felt impossible. Thank you God for giving me my dear man and our three beautiful princesses. Please make me more worthy of this priceless gift of my family.
Finally alone December 30, 2010Posted by sunflower71 in Life with 3 princesses.
Tags: The Star
There are different theories and practices of where babies and young children should be put to sleep and till what age. With my children we were very easy and had few rules except that as much as possible everyone kept to their own bed. My elder two princesses moved out of our bedroom, where they both had their own little beds, to their own room, the summer before The Star arrived. The Princess was nearly 3 and The Cherub was 1.5 years old. Today finally, it was the time for The Star to move out. She is now fast asleep in her own bed in the same room with her sisters. I don’t know if this is where she will wake up tomorrow morning, though I very sincerily hope so, but I’m certainly very happy that she has finally made the move.
Sleep tight my dears!