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My first holiday with my Princess March 11, 2011

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TP and I spent a couple of days in Sicily.  We joined a group of colleagues from my new job.  We had been planning this for quite a while and until the moment we were boarding I couldn’t quite believe I’d actually manage to do it.  We were both very looking forward to a couple of days away from it all.  Ever since TS was born I had started to feel that my family had become a croud.  At times one needs to take turns to find a free moment to say something.  And this with TS still in her 2s!  Somehow we managed to convince TS that this time it was TP’s turn and I was at peace with the fact that I was choosing between who of my children to take.  Egoistically, I had opted for TP mainly because she is the easier one to take around.  At 5 she still sleeps on a car trip and need to be in bed by 8.  But for me that compromise is nothing when compared to the time we were going to have alone together.

Here she is on her very first meeting with the snow on Mount Etna.

At Giardino Bellini in Catania.

At the carnival in Acireale.

At Taormina.

With a new friend she made, one of my new work colleagues’ daughter.

 

boys March 6, 2011

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With three girls in the house, it goes without saying that their relationships with boys will feature in our conversations every now and then.  I had imagined this would happen sooner or later but I hadn’t figured it would happen so soon.

We’ve had this conversation:

TC (4 years old): Today me and GL (her heart-throb for this last year!) spend all our time in the yard running after each other.

TP (5 years old): Mum but why don’t I have someone who loves me like she has? (in tears)

Me: well you have me and dad and TS and TC who love you very much

TP: but I want a boy like GL to love me.

Me: (Giving her a hug) You will one day my dear.

then a few days later….

TP: Ma I support Liverpool like N.  (On this rock it’s very common for football lovers to support English, Italian teams)

Me: Really.  That’s nice.  Do you know what Liverpool is?

TP:  (in an exasperated tone) It’s a football team.  N plays with them.

Me:  Ah.  I think you mean he likes them.

TP: No he plays with them.  His back pack is a Liverpool one too.

Me:  But who is N?

TP:  He is my friend.  He tries to catch me in the yard but I run very very fast and he hardly every manages. He manages only when I let him!

Me:  Then I think he likes the football team called Liverpool FC but plays football here in town.  Liverpool is in the Uk.  Your dad has been there.

TP: I’ll ask him tomorrow if it’s like you say or not. 

Then one afternoon…

TS (aged 2): Today GL hit me.  (I’m sure he didn’t as they are in different play groups in entirely different towns,)

Me: Who is GL?

TS: the boy of TC!  He hit me very hard!

I’m sure there’s more to come…

We wish you a merry Christmas December 30, 2010

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(belatedness being the name of the game here….)

Our crib was the Princesses main play thing until Santa crossed our path.  The figures were never in the same place, spent a generous amount of time elsewhere (read here – on the floor) and we obviously have two sets of the main characters.  Next year they will be three as I’m sure The Star will complain and will want to have her own. In reality we did start off with 3 sets but one of them was made of breakable material and were reduced to unmendable masses of bits in less than a day.

Our Christmas day was spent mostly on Gozo but as usual we also visited our other part of the family on the other island Malta.  The girls had a very good day but The Princess has now serious doubts about the existence of Father Christmas who this year they met early in December (I’ll write a post about this, promise), got her and The Cherub identical toys, knew we would be in Gozo on Christmas Day,  and visited us again at our relatives in Malta but this time it was really her cousin dressed up. The Star was not so worried about all this.  Her thinking skills focused on the content of his sack!

on birthdays, cakes and Christmas December 9, 2010

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Today my man celebrates his birthday…..or rather, I tried to find a way to celebrate my and the princesses’ hero after he came home from a long day at work.  I’d like to think we managed. His non-words during the cake tasting were enough to make my efforts worth it.  I’m not very able at cake making but I relied on Nigella Lawson’s spiced Chocolate Cake from her  Christmas book.  Mine looked exactly like this…and tasted as heavenly and chocolatey as it looks.

The girls’ excitement for all things Christmassy is increasing as the chocolates in their Advent Calendars are decreasing.  At school all three are rehearsing their carols and corresponding actions.  The Princess has also a speaking part in her class’ play so we also have her lines to revise.  However the best part of all this has to be The Star’s determination not to be left out of anything we do.  Her vocabulary her increased exponentially lately so she can now generally verbalise her wishes and rest assured she is doing just this and obtaining everything she wants fast. Unfortunately this means also that she often get hurt trying to imitate her sisters and tells everyone who is willing to listen to her woes.  She is such a character… and oh, how I see our work cut out for us as she grows older!

 I’m missing this space and following my virtual friends but 24 hours are just that and there is simply never time for everything.  I’m very disappointed and my not being able to keep posting more regularly, if for nothing to keep a record for myself and the girls of the highlights that punctuate our days.  Let’s see if I can improve in this…

Adjusting October 5, 2010

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This is the one single word that best describes us right now.

I am adjusting to being a full-time working mom of 3 girls aged 5 and less.

My man is adjusting to being the husband of a working wife.

We are both adjusting to being busier, have more to do in less time. 

The Princess is adjusting to her  new school, new uniform, having homework after school (I know it’s sounds cruel but she has her 1 and i and l to write 😉 ).

The Cherub, now finally had her first day at school, and finally can tell us about what she did at school, and what her teacher said.  She seems to be, to me, the one who is coping best with the changes.

The Star still can’t get used to being, not at home, but at her playschool during the day.  She still occasionally starves herself during the day, or cries her heart out when I leave her in the morning, or starts crying (to complain for being left there so long, I think and hope) the moment I walk through the door in the afternoon when I pick her up, or all three on the same day.

The Princess and the Cherub are now being accompanied to school by our friend/home help/nanny who as turned out to be our angel without whom the tight morning  schedule would all apart as would the odd but fairly common afternoon when the usual timetable is tweaked and my planning falls through.

The Princess – God please keep your hands on her, on the driver and the rest of the children – now takes the school transport to get home from school.  I had planned to bring her home myself but the traffic in the area plus the lack of parking spaces anywhere close to her school have made it impossible for me to do it.  God bless also My Princess’s docile soul who just took this ‘slight’ change in her stride.  She is only 5.  Can’t even be seen in between the huge seats of the coach.  But she seems fine with the arrangement and what surprised me was that she understood our  need for this change.

It is too early to see if my going out to work instead of staying here to mind the house and the family’s needs exclusively is helping or harming the family in any way.

There is one other thing, that is adjusting, that maybe is positive, in the whole e.  It’s that I’m getting 6 hours every day (ok, maybe it’s a bit less as I still phone our nanny for updates) that I am thinking of other things, having conversations with adults, discussing strategies and groupings, problems and possible solutions, approaches and attitudes.  And all in all, I don’t feel any more tired than I did when I did not work… strange but true!

PS I still can’t bring myself to write about my work itself.  It is an emotional experience both at best and at worse.  Maybe I start another anonymous blog about that.  We’ll see.

29 August – The Gallery September 1, 2010

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Our Sunday had a particular highlight.  We took the girls for a swim in this particular peculiar spot.  I took the hint from the island fairy and we didn’t regret it.  Here are the princesses enjoying our beautiful sea.

On the day that 3 popular mummy bloggers are travelling to Bangladesh to raise awareness families face there, Tara at Sticky Fingers chose this promt.  Our children are lucky but I try to make them aware that not all the children are such.

1975 revisited July 25, 2010

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These are my brother and I.  I was 4 and he a few months old.  I kind of have a memory of this photo being taken or maybe it’s just a very dear memory of snuggling in this cot.

2010. Different house.  Different cot.  Other children.  Same cuddles between siblings.

well....its' impossible to get all three looking in the same direction... this is how TP and TC like to wake up TS when they decide she had slept enough

The Point: Millie’s Cookies June 23, 2010

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On Saturday, we headed to a new shopping mall – The Point.  I think the developers were thinking too big this time… but then I’m no economic guru. It’s just that we didn’t all suddenly had an increase in our disposable income.  And our population hasn’t overnight increased by 10%.   Anyway time will tell.  And for the time being we go there as the girls love its long escalators, panoramic lifts and the water fountain.  I love it for it hosts Millie’s Cookies.

This time I had a choc & orange and a double choc, plus a cappuccino. The cookies are good, very good.  Actually just right: not too big, not too small. Baked to perfection too.  Not too crunchy, not too chewy.  The double choc tasted heavenly.  The choc & orange, I’d have liked it to be a teeny bit more tangy.  The cappuccino is one of those produced by a machine that needs not human intervention except to place the cup and press the right button.  On the whole an enjoyable break except for the girl who served me.  Let’s just say that she is probably new and is used to being on the other side of the bench.  In the meantime, the girls enjoyed the Jumping Castle outside the toyshop on site, that was for once offered for free together, with some face painting (the The Cherub refuses to have on her face but want only and always just a butterfly on her hand).

In between the jumping and the face painting, I overheard this conversation:

TP: Let’s go to have our face painted!

TC:  I don’t want my face painted, I want a butterfly on my hand.

TP (taking her sister by the shoulders): Ok my dear one, if the lady speaks to you in English, I will tell her what you want, don’t worry.

The Princess is too sweet and caring.  I hope she stays this way.

PS We speak predominantly in Maltese but both TP and TC can follow and continue a conversation in English.  Ah, and this is not sponsored post.

The Gallery: Motherhood June 18, 2010

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This week’s prompt on Tara’s Gallery on Sticky Fingers was Motherhood.

I found this prompt particularly difficult to visualise in one single photo.  Where could I start thinking….

This phrase from an old tv advert on Italian tv described being pregnant as “Quando hai capito che non saresti mai piu stata sola” that translates into “When you understood that you would never again be alone”.  I wasn’t even thinking of having kids when I noticed and liked this phrase.  But it is only now, with 5 years into this ‘motherhood’ experience that I am starting to begin to understand its meaning, realising as we go along that my life with my 3 princesses is and will be an emotional roller-coaster, a 24/7 unpaid job and an endless thinking process.  And that I am never alone.  I know that physically I will one day be, but  I also know that I will never stop thinking of them.

So here is my summary and simplification of all this in the following 4 photos.

These are my 3 princesses at Mdina, a beautiful, still-inhabited medieval town in Malta. This picture was taken by my sister. I like it because it is very much what we do...always out and about in the most beautiful spots of our islands in to keep the girls entertained while attempting to pass on to our love for our beloved, beautiful island steeped in history.

This picture is very dear to my heart. It was taken at Ta' Qali, a new, and one of a kind adventure park, on this rock. My man managed to capture my dream for my children in this photo. I hope my children will find in themselves the courage to find their own way in the world, that they will always have each other however far or near from each other they might find themselves and that they will always know that whatever happens their father and I will always be there for them.

I know what's for dinner, the breakfast and lunch dishes can wait, and the ironing basket is not yet piled up too high. So we play pretend! This time, The Princess and The Cherub are both doctors. The Star is their trustful patient. I was here attempting to preparing them for our next visit to our pediatrician. Thanks S for taking the photo - I'm not looking my best but the moment was too precious.

This is my life, taken over by my children.  That is motherhood to me.

Thank you for reading this post.

Transitions June 11, 2010

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Today I went to The Princess’s school for a morning of talks about the transition from Kindergarten to Year 1. Our eldest will start her formal schooling next September. We had first a child psychologist advising us how to give our dearest a positive but realistic impression of their new school and some simple games we could do with them to help form their kids for writing. There were a couple of ‘aha’ moments for me that made the whole long morning worth the effort of going there with The Star who behaved impeccably well throughout the whole meeting. Then the school counsellors introduced themselves and asked us not to bury our worries but to contact them freely and as often as needed. Lastly the Head of School gave us details about what will take place on the first few days of school and what we need to prepare over the summer holidays to avoid the rush on the first day of school. All in all – 10 out of 10 for our school’s management team.
I’m happy I took my man’s advice and enrolled our 3 princesses here. They will be in safe capable hands in this their other home away from home.