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Parenting skills May 16, 2011

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This is probably for many of us in this role one of the issues that troubles us most. Unlike other skills we might possess there is pretty little to show us if we are actually on the right track or not.  I do not mean to say that the difference between parents is not sometimes too obvious for the wrong reasons but that there are no indicators that could in some way let us know that we are actually on the right path to helping out children become mature and responsible adults….that is, until they are older and have become adults.  But then, by that time, it is obviously too late to do anything about it anyway.

Then today, while I’m taking down the clothes from the clothes’ horse The Star comes along to help out.  She starts piling up the clothes according to who they belong to and then putting the pegs in their container.  Later when this is done, she starts giving me the wet clothes to hang together with 2 pegs at a time!  We work silently together until both tasks are complete.  For the record, she is 2 years 4 months old.

Now, tell me, if this is not a sign that I’m doing something right with the girls, what is?


Conversations with The Star May 12, 2011

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My man: Francesca don’t touch the tv as it can break (when she touches the laptop’s screen with her fingers)

Francesca: That’s not a tv daddy, that’s a computer!

Lesson learnt: don’t try to simplify life too much for children as they are generally far more aware of what is what than we realize!

The Star’s vocabulary and thinking skills (2) March 21, 2011

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We are trying to settle down in bed. TC is already fast asleep. TP is nearly off too. TS is still very wide awake and has just pooed in her nappy.
Me: Francesca have you pooed?
TS: Yes ma.
Me: Ask daddy to come and change your nappy.
TS: He doesn’t know how and he has cream on his finger now.

The Star’s vocabulary is increasing as are her thinking skills March 17, 2011

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TS: Milk mama, please.
Me: (I’m at my desk catching up on some work) Ask daddy Francesca.
TS: ‘Mela inti ma tafx’ (So you don’t know how to do it?)

boys March 6, 2011

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With three girls in the house, it goes without saying that their relationships with boys will feature in our conversations every now and then.  I had imagined this would happen sooner or later but I hadn’t figured it would happen so soon.

We’ve had this conversation:

TC (4 years old): Today me and GL (her heart-throb for this last year!) spend all our time in the yard running after each other.

TP (5 years old): Mum but why don’t I have someone who loves me like she has? (in tears)

Me: well you have me and dad and TS and TC who love you very much

TP: but I want a boy like GL to love me.

Me: (Giving her a hug) You will one day my dear.

then a few days later….

TP: Ma I support Liverpool like N.  (On this rock it’s very common for football lovers to support English, Italian teams)

Me: Really.  That’s nice.  Do you know what Liverpool is?

TP:  (in an exasperated tone) It’s a football team.  N plays with them.

Me:  Ah.  I think you mean he likes them.

TP: No he plays with them.  His back pack is a Liverpool one too.

Me:  But who is N?

TP:  He is my friend.  He tries to catch me in the yard but I run very very fast and he hardly every manages. He manages only when I let him!

Me:  Then I think he likes the football team called Liverpool FC but plays football here in town.  Liverpool is in the Uk.  Your dad has been there.

TP: I’ll ask him tomorrow if it’s like you say or not. 

Then one afternoon…

TS (aged 2): Today GL hit me.  (I’m sure he didn’t as they are in different play groups in entirely different towns,)

Me: Who is GL?

TS: the boy of TC!  He hit me very hard!

I’m sure there’s more to come…

Finally alone December 30, 2010

Posted by sunflower71 in Life with 3 princesses.

There are different theories and practices of where babies and young children should be put to sleep and till what age.  With  my children we were very easy and had few rules except that as much as possible everyone kept to their own bed.  My elder two princesses moved out of our bedroom, where they both had their own little beds, to their own room, the summer before The Star arrived.  The Princess was nearly 3 and The Cherub was 1.5 years old.  Today finally, it was the time for The Star to move out.  She is now fast asleep in her own bed in the same room with her sisters.  I don’t know if this is where she will wake up tomorrow morning, though I very sincerily hope so, but I’m certainly very happy that she has finally  made the move.

Sleep tight my dears!

We wish you a merry Christmas December 30, 2010

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(belatedness being the name of the game here….)

Our crib was the Princesses main play thing until Santa crossed our path.  The figures were never in the same place, spent a generous amount of time elsewhere (read here – on the floor) and we obviously have two sets of the main characters.  Next year they will be three as I’m sure The Star will complain and will want to have her own. In reality we did start off with 3 sets but one of them was made of breakable material and were reduced to unmendable masses of bits in less than a day.

Our Christmas day was spent mostly on Gozo but as usual we also visited our other part of the family on the other island Malta.  The girls had a very good day but The Princess has now serious doubts about the existence of Father Christmas who this year they met early in December (I’ll write a post about this, promise), got her and The Cherub identical toys, knew we would be in Gozo on Christmas Day,  and visited us again at our relatives in Malta but this time it was really her cousin dressed up. The Star was not so worried about all this.  Her thinking skills focused on the content of his sack!

on birthdays, cakes and Christmas December 9, 2010

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Today my man celebrates his birthday…..or rather, I tried to find a way to celebrate my and the princesses’ hero after he came home from a long day at work.  I’d like to think we managed. His non-words during the cake tasting were enough to make my efforts worth it.  I’m not very able at cake making but I relied on Nigella Lawson’s spiced Chocolate Cake from her  Christmas book.  Mine looked exactly like this…and tasted as heavenly and chocolatey as it looks.

The girls’ excitement for all things Christmassy is increasing as the chocolates in their Advent Calendars are decreasing.  At school all three are rehearsing their carols and corresponding actions.  The Princess has also a speaking part in her class’ play so we also have her lines to revise.  However the best part of all this has to be The Star’s determination not to be left out of anything we do.  Her vocabulary her increased exponentially lately so she can now generally verbalise her wishes and rest assured she is doing just this and obtaining everything she wants fast. Unfortunately this means also that she often get hurt trying to imitate her sisters and tells everyone who is willing to listen to her woes.  She is such a character… and oh, how I see our work cut out for us as she grows older!

 I’m missing this space and following my virtual friends but 24 hours are just that and there is simply never time for everything.  I’m very disappointed and my not being able to keep posting more regularly, if for nothing to keep a record for myself and the girls of the highlights that punctuate our days.  Let’s see if I can improve in this…

Adjusting October 5, 2010

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This is the one single word that best describes us right now.

I am adjusting to being a full-time working mom of 3 girls aged 5 and less.

My man is adjusting to being the husband of a working wife.

We are both adjusting to being busier, have more to do in less time. 

The Princess is adjusting to her  new school, new uniform, having homework after school (I know it’s sounds cruel but she has her 1 and i and l to write 😉 ).

The Cherub, now finally had her first day at school, and finally can tell us about what she did at school, and what her teacher said.  She seems to be, to me, the one who is coping best with the changes.

The Star still can’t get used to being, not at home, but at her playschool during the day.  She still occasionally starves herself during the day, or cries her heart out when I leave her in the morning, or starts crying (to complain for being left there so long, I think and hope) the moment I walk through the door in the afternoon when I pick her up, or all three on the same day.

The Princess and the Cherub are now being accompanied to school by our friend/home help/nanny who as turned out to be our angel without whom the tight morning  schedule would all apart as would the odd but fairly common afternoon when the usual timetable is tweaked and my planning falls through.

The Princess – God please keep your hands on her, on the driver and the rest of the children – now takes the school transport to get home from school.  I had planned to bring her home myself but the traffic in the area plus the lack of parking spaces anywhere close to her school have made it impossible for me to do it.  God bless also My Princess’s docile soul who just took this ‘slight’ change in her stride.  She is only 5.  Can’t even be seen in between the huge seats of the coach.  But she seems fine with the arrangement and what surprised me was that she understood our  need for this change.

It is too early to see if my going out to work instead of staying here to mind the house and the family’s needs exclusively is helping or harming the family in any way.

There is one other thing, that is adjusting, that maybe is positive, in the whole e.  It’s that I’m getting 6 hours every day (ok, maybe it’s a bit less as I still phone our nanny for updates) that I am thinking of other things, having conversations with adults, discussing strategies and groupings, problems and possible solutions, approaches and attitudes.  And all in all, I don’t feel any more tired than I did when I did not work… strange but true!

PS I still can’t bring myself to write about my work itself.  It is an emotional experience both at best and at worse.  Maybe I start another anonymous blog about that.  We’ll see.

29 August – The Gallery September 1, 2010

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Our Sunday had a particular highlight.  We took the girls for a swim in this particular peculiar spot.  I took the hint from the island fairy and we didn’t regret it.  Here are the princesses enjoying our beautiful sea.

On the day that 3 popular mummy bloggers are travelling to Bangladesh to raise awareness families face there, Tara at Sticky Fingers chose this promt.  Our children are lucky but I try to make them aware that not all the children are such.